Step 1 - Home Study

First of all, can I just say how much I admire "Blogger Moms" or really anyone who can manage to keep up on their blog! Jeff & I both always think of things we can blog about, especially after so many people telling us how much they enjoy reading it, but we never find the time to really get it done. Hopefully now we can be more consistent because logging our journey toward parenthood, this way is going to be the best way to keep all of our family and friends updated! We also hope to help any other couples by sharing what we are learning, because that has really been the only way we have been able to make any progress at all through this web of craziness called adoption. 

I think the part for us that has made it so chaotic is that we have been traveling down both the fertility specialist avenue and adoption as adoption in Utah has been transforming into a whole new thing. 

If you would like an update on the fertility testing and where we have been with that, please click on that link. I highly recommend the doctor that we have seen to anyone with questions about their fertility! He has helped women all over the world conceive and the entire office staff is amazing.

In the state of Utah in order to do any type of adoption you have to complete a Home Study. There is a lot of work that goes into receiving this document, which is basically a legal document from the state proving you have been evaluated and are legally acceptable to adopt a child. It took us a lot of steps to reach step #1, but we are finally here! The application forms have been read, filled out, signed and ready to mail out first thing tomorrow morning. Because we started this process at the end of summer this year with LDS Family Services, we kind of know what to expect and have most of our documents in order. So hopefully this will be a seamless process that will go through quick as can be. 

The reason we chose to go through Utah Adoption Services is because realistically we can not afford $30,000+ to adopt through an agency. It is a little less leg work going through an agency and Utah has some great ones. But, we have a lot of support of friends and family and feel that we will be able to reach the right birth mom through the help of all of you! People are alway so willing to help, but just don't know how. So this is how you can help us...

SHARE OUR STORY! 

(as uncomfortable as that has been for us, we are learning more and more that is really the only way to get in touch with the right people)

Now is the time that the person you know, who knows someone out in Flordia, who has a cousin's friend who is looking for a family... send them our way.

That sounds super weird, but it's really how it all works!

We are working on our official online profile, so eventually that will be the best thing to share. But, for now we have our blog and also pass along cards. If you would like some pass along cards let us know and we would be happy to get some for you! 

Not every birth mother who we come in contact with is going to be the right fit. But we have a feeling that the love will be instant and hopefully it will all work out smoothly from there. But first, we have to get in front of her and let her know that we are here. Waiting for her, waiting to love her, waiting to help her and waiting to be her friend. 

Thank you all again for helping us through this adventure ... we love you and appreciate your support!

-Jeff & Bobbie

01.11.2015